. >> rose: i am a famous, buckley said to me once at this table, i'm ready to die, i'm to the going to commit suicide, i don't want to die but i'm ready to die because all the things that i love to do i can't do any more. and he just checked them off. i can't edit the magazine. the i can't sail, i can't go make speeches. i can't write, there was a whole range of things. and he said it's not-- i'm ready. >> then you take someone who is pulled out of their home, put into an institution, hit with one thing after another. and no one is asking, what are we doing this for. what are we trying to save you for. and the interesting thing is the studies of actually asking those kinds of questions and being able to get people to identify their goals leads people to say stop their chemotherapy sooner. they have fewer days in the hospital. and hospice sooner, less suffering at the end of life. and the iron see-- irony is they live 25% longer. it's better than a drug. >> wow. >> because that fourth round of chemotherapy, are you just doing sometimes the doctors just doing it, because you can't face w